Changing a behavior that has been ingrained for a long period of time can be challenging, especially when it is associated with an identity or a family history. The first step in changing a habit is to understand the behavior and the reasons why it needs to change. Instead of thinking of yourself as an “alcoholic,” for example, it can be helpful to focus on the specific behaviors that need to change and the reasons why they are being changed. This can provide a sense of clarity and purpose, and help to create a new narrative around the habit. Another important step is to set realistic goals. Change takes time and effort, and it is important to be kind to yourself and not to give up hope after multiple failures. It might take time and effort, but change is always possible. Setting small, achievable goals can help to build momentum and create a sense of progress. In addition to setting goals, it is important to have a plan of action. This can include seeking support from a therapist, counselor, or support group, as well as finding ways to hold yourself accountable. This can be as simple as keeping a journal or reaching out to a trusted friend or family member for support. Another helpful way to achieve this change is by focusing on the present moment. In the heat of the moment, it can be easy to get caught up in negative thoughts and feelings, and to spiral into a cycle of failure. You can, however, break the cycle and create a new reality by being present in the moment and making small changes.